About Wedding.

Hello everyone!  My good friend Ilona https://easydiet.blog and I are back with another collaboration today.  This time the topic is weddings and we hope that you will enjoy it.

Wedding is an important day of our life. Depend the people it can be more or less significant. But one sure thing is that it’s pretty expensive day.

Lot of personal and financial investment. Do it really worth it? I personally prefer to use this money to enjoy a trip or important expense in life.

Than spend an enormous amount of money for 1 day. But as I said depend the people is more or less important. So I respect people who invest so much into it but it’s not my mentality.

Weddings today can be very expensive. People end up going so far into debt that it can take years to pay for it. Here in N. America the average cost of a wedding is $33,000. The average cost of an engagement ring is $3,100 and a wedding ring is $2,500.

The average cost for a wedding dress is $1,800. Catering for 100 guests runs about $6,000 to $8,000. And many people want something extra, something different to make their wedding stand out more than the average and that just makes it even more expensive.

One man said his friend had spent $5,000 on the engagement ring for his fiance, so he decided to pay more for his just to outdo his friend. Unfortunately people rarely consider the costs, they just go ahead and do it and worry about it later. Does this really make sense? Is this really the best way to start off your marriage?

Ilona and Steve.

© 2019 Steve McLeod and Ilona Pulianauskaite.

104 Comments on “About Wedding.

  1. u both choose a good topic .its true people spend lot of money in wedding.basically we show the people our fake standards.we have to promote the culture of simple wedding.this culture could be better for our society because every one is not rich so balance in society is better for all of us

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    • Thank you so much for reading! Yes, I agree with you on that, simple weddings would be better for all. Thanks for your great comment! Enjoy your day!😃

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  2. Hey guys, excellent post! This is exactly what my fiancee and I are currently going through. We made a conscious decision to have a wedding because we know we would have regretted not doing so. We had some parameters to follow though. For starters: We would NOT go into debt. We choose to live within our means. Second, we decided to keep it small and intimate, which helped with the cost. And lastly, we decided that “traditions” — like a fancy cake, limo, etc. — were not worth breaking the bank. That said, we are planning (for what I hope will be) a lovely wedding without going over our budget. We’re also having a honeymoon fund instead of a gift registry which subsidizes the expenses. Great topic you two! I might write a post further explaining this decision soon. But I agree, one day is not worth $30K — unless you’re rich, I guess. Lol 😉

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  3. You’ re absolutely right, dear Steve. On the other hand, it depends on how you see this special day of yours. Do you see it as a party for two ? Or a party for more than two people ? Then, there are local customs, traditions, and blah blah… and the story goes on. However, you’ re right. It is costly. I think if you use your fantasy a bit, you can be on the budget. If you live in New York, forget it. You better visit the Hall, which is awesome actually…lol

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    • A wedding doesn’t need to be expensive to be nice and a budget is always a good idea to follow. Spend the money on a honeymoon instead. Oh well, but that is one of the problems is all the customs and traditions that can make things expensive. But everyone is different. Thanks for reading and for your comment!🙂

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      • Exactly. Additionally it is mom and dad who have plans on your wedding !!!… LOL … Anyway, i think, if you’ re a friend , and instead of buying a gift, to give the money to the couple, in envelope, with some wishes. They will love it.

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      • Yes, I always figure that money is a better thing than gifts, that way no worries about 10 of the same thing!😂Or something that you really don’t need. Yes, some parents have had to get a second mortgage on their house to pay for the wedding. Sometimes it might be better for parents not to get involved.😂

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  4. I didn’t have the wedding and it’s great. Who needs that? 😂😂😂 But May be I will one day. 😊😊😊 money not important, life is much more better when we stop worshipping money 😊

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    • I agree, money can become a problem. And people can have a nice wedding without spending a huge amount of money. Thanks for reading and for your comment, have a great day/evening!😄🌞

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  5. A nice intimate wedding with family and few select friends and small reception. Spend the Money on the Honeymoon!! Much more memorable I feel! Good subject! I like it.

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  6. I think the current trend is to go to a more intimate celebration if it’s about weddings. The great celebrations are left for those who have economic solvency and for those who want to show off to others. Your article gives many opinions and that says how well you wrote it.

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  7. I don’t think weddings need to be super expensive if it’s well planned. For us, we spent $22,000 including my engagement ring and we didn’t end up in debt over it. My dress alone was close to 2K but it was the only dress I liked. We skipped the honeymoon, the DJ and the open bar. Some people weren’t happy about the lack of free booze (they got wine during the reception) but it was our wedding day and that’s what we chose to do. I’ve been married to my husband for 3 years so I think that says a lot about the myth that the more money you spend at your wedding, then the happier you’ll be.

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    • I completely agree with you! The wife-elect and I spent about 6 months looking for the wedding venue alone, but that investment in research has saved us literally tens of thousands! Congratulation on your marriage! It sounds like you guys are happy, and that’s the most important part! 😃

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      • You’re lucky you had time to plan your wedding. We only had 4 months to plan everything and it ended up being a great wedding overall. So many people these days are reluctant to commit to the married life, so I really respect the fact that you are choosing marriage. 💍👰🤵

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      • Wow! That’s impressive! And thank you, the respect is mutual! Admittedly, I had 11 years to make sure she was “the one.” Lol I was fortunate to meet her in my teens.

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      • Wow! 11 years is amazing! I’ve only known my now husband since I was 21 and he was 22 at the time. I wish I would have met him in my teen years when life was confusing and quite lonely. I wasn’t fortunate to have relationships in my teenage years.

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      • That’s alright, I think 20’s is a great age to date seriously. I may have met her in my teens, but thank God I did not ask her out back then, I would have ruined it right away. 😅 We started dating around 24 when we were more mature and knew what we wanted. 😃

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      • Good decision, 20s is a good time to start dating, as you say, people can be more mature then and actually know what they want. Sorry for jumping in, glad you both had a good conversation, always nice to see. Have a great day!😃😺

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      • Thanks Steve! I was actually a bit worried we may be bothering you with so many notifications. 😅 Thank you for providing the space to have this conversation. 😃

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      • That’s okay, notifications are never a problem, I like when people feel free to talk about posts together. But a warning, I just might join the conversation too!😂Have a great day!😁

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      • Sounds great! Stay tuned for lots more happening over here with more of this and that and other things too. If I was more specific it would give it away!😂😄😸

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    • Yes, people can have a very nice wedding without spending a great deal of money. I know one couple who chose to put their money into buying a house and just have a small intimate wedding which was actually very beautiful. I heard a couple guys talking in our coffee shop and they both agreed if there was no alcohol they wouldn’t go to the wedding. My thought was, good, stay home then!😂That’s one problem today, people are told they have to spend a lot on their wedding or they won’t be happy. Makes no sense to me. And I know people who are very happy in their marriage who didn’t spend a lot on their wedding. Thanks for your great comment! Sorry I’m late responding, I quit early last night. Have a great day!😃😺

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      • I feel like people just expect alcohol at weddings and can’t appreciate a sober wedding. Open bars are really expensive and I wasn’t drinking at my wedding anyways. Even though they served wine during the dinner, I still didn’t drink and people were suspicious… and they had every right to be, but still. Just goes to show that people have certain expectations I guess. My alcoholic father bought extra alcohol for himself at our wedding which was super embarrassing because he can’t go two minutes without his liquor. He buys alcohol on planes too and pays premium price which is ridiculous to me. He’s the main reason I don’t drink 🤦‍♀️

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      • True, one reason weddings can be so expensive is simply people do what others expect. A friend of mine came from an alcoholic home, it was terrible really and when he and I were 12 we made a pact between us that we would not touch alcohol, and we have both kept to that. We had several other things in that pact too which we have both kept ever since then. Sorry it took a while to answer, your comment went to spam for some reason. I really need to check more often I guess. Have a great weekend!

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      • Good for you for not drinking! I was told with my antidepressant that I can’t have alcohol, and I said to the Dr, “well that won’t be an issue because I don’t drink!”

        You are so lucky to have a long-time friend who you’ve known since you were little. I don’t keep in touch with the people from my childhood for various reasons, but that sure sounds like wonderful friendship that you have. Did you find the promises that you made to impact your life in a positive way?

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      • Good morning! He was a good friend for sure. We don’t keep in touch much now, he moved out to Vancouver with his family now. Yes, those promises did have a big impact positively in my life. Aside from no drinking, we also included no smoking, no drugs. This kept me from getting involved in things that my other friends did. They all ended up with problems of one kind or another. Some really got hooked on drugs which ruined their lives. A couple ended up in jail. So my one friend and I stayed away from that crowd and we both have done well in our lives. It kept us out of a lot of trouble. And my health is good too, I have a good outlook on life, I certainly have never regretted making these decisions. I hope you three have a great day ahead!😃😺

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  8. IMO, just elope and save money for a get together with family and friends. Expensive and big weddings have become more of “keep up with the Joneses”, rather than tying the knot. And so it goes.

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    • Yes, that’s true enough, everyone trying to outdo others. Eloping isn’t such a bad idea, go on a nice honeymoon instead for a longer time of great memories. Thanks for reading and your comment Eugenia, have a great day!😃🌞

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  9. Good morning Steve and thank you for your post. I recently got married and for this comment, I’d like to separate the marriage ceremony from the wedding party or social celebration. I had a marriage ceremony but didn’t have a wedding party. It was just us two, two witnesses and the minister and her son.
    Weddings parties are highly cultural events and they have a purpose beyond the obvious. In a time before mass communication, the larger the party the more people became aware of the event, and someone might know one of them is already married or a criminal and speak up. It was a notice to the public for others to speak up. It is even part the wedding ceremony. Does any one present know of a reason why these two people shouldn’t be married?

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    • Hi Eugenio and thanks for reading and for your great comment! Yes, you’re right, there are the 2 parts. A wedding doesn’t need to be big or expensive to be a lovely event. A couple I know decided on a small wedding without the party attached so they could buy a house instead, which I think was a great idea. Others have gone small so they could have a nice honeymoon. Mostly it seems that large weddings are more to be a show for others or to outdo someone else. And often it just leads to financial headaches later. Which just spoils the beauty of the event anyway. Personally I prefer the small over big any day. Have a great day!😃🌞

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  10. I prefer to spend on trips then a lavish expensive wedding. I’d love to travel the world, go beyond where I live. One day of dumping huge amounts of money, doesn’t sound exciting. I’m still undecided on whether to go straight to justice of the peace or a small intimate wedding 🤔. We’ll see what happens when I reach that point.
    Great post!

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    • I certainly agree with you on that. A small intimate wedding or justice of the peace, why not? Spend the money on a honeymoon instead, a longer time for longer memories. Thanks for reading Tiffany and for your great comment too! I hope you are having a wonderful day!😄🌞

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      • Yes, rainy days are nice, for me they are very calm days and they make it feel good to be indoors doing things. Do you work from home?

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      • I’m a teacher. The children keep me busy, but they seem calmer. I do like to sit indoors when it rains, but there’s something to sitting by the window or door and hearing the rain drops that’s both soothing and romantic.

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      • Hey, that’s cool! I have often taught in our local home school association, science and carpentry. I have also spent a lot of time in summer Bible camps teaching kids about God’s wonderful creation, taking them on hikes, canoeing. Always enjoy working with children. Yes, I enjoy listening to the rain,especially at night.🌧🙂

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